New Zealand

I’m obviously not much good at this blog stuff – almost 6 months since my last blog and much has happened.

Moved to Wellington NZ ! This was not expected. KJ got a job here. Wellington is windy and cold – nothing like Bali. I do miss the beauty of Bali – but also wonder if we would ever really made it our home. Wellington is quite stunning, but it is tough moving to a new place and trying to make friends and find things to do that are meaningful. There’s only so much volunteer work one can do. Still, we are committed here for at least 3 years – so we will make the most of it.

Another grandchild ! Tody – a grand-daughter – born yesterday to Josh and Maddie. Josh is 39 – I had 4 kids when I was 39 – the youngest 4. I had my 39th birthday in Wisconsin – we had just arrived there. What an interesting time that was in the USA, and life- changing. I’ve always been sceptical of people who say they don’t want to have kids because the world is a bad place to bring them up. But the world is surely in a mess right now. Trump in America and likely to win another election – how much more damage can he do. Boris in UK and likely to win – election tomorrow. Scomo in Australia – what a clown – and a dangerous one. And the world’s climate changing in a bad way at a rapid pace. Hopefully, the next generation can do something about it – because surely the current one has failed.

On the prostate front – PSA remains at zero. Not much else happening. Got a close friend dying of cancer right now. It’s been so quick and we will surely miss him – the type of guy you want to spend time with.

Xmas will be spent here in NZ. I will miss not being with at least one of my kids – Xmas is not the same without them. But Xmas will be followed by Lach and Katie’s wedding – so that will be a great catchup – with some people I haven’t seen for 10 years. What a blast.

I hope 2020 is great for everyone ! XX

12 months since operation

It’s hard to believe that 12 months ago I was just getting out of hospital after the prostatectomy. Lots of holes in my tummy and tubes hanging out of them.

Since then, life has had some interesting happenings.

The best was the birth of my new grandson, Finn, on the day I got out of hospital. He is a bonny lad and now taking his first steps.

Living in Bali has been great and trying all sorts of remedies to get the nerves working again – none of which have worked. But my PSA remains at zero – so that’s great news.

KJ has just scored a job in Wellington, NZ so we are off there in September for a new part of our life adventure. Mixed feeling about leaving Bali – I do like it here and I’m sure we will be back – we do have 2 villas in Seminyak to look after. Not looking forward to cold weather.

Before NZ we go to Canada for a month holiday – planned ages ago. Doing house swaps in Montreal and Vancouver. Looking for to the Mark Knopfler concert, in particular. Then we have 3 days back in Bali before travelling to NZ.

I will be back in Bali in October to organize what things need to be moved – hopefully by then we will know where we are living.

KJ is busy going through every cupboard, identifying what we must keep and send to NZ, what goes to Seminyak, what stays here (at least for a bit) and what gets thrown out – lots! “If in doubt, throw it out!” is my motto.

I need to get in a few massages before I leave Bali – they are way more expensive in NZ and I doubt if they are as good. So I might just head to my favourite masseuse now. Bye 🙂

PSA still zero – action below the belt not much more

My 9 month post-op PSA test recorded zero. Obviously great news.

But erections remain a thing of the past, despite, drugs, pumps and needles.

Have been trying acupuncture and acupressure but with no obvious impact. More time and patience required.

There is just so little research on how to get the nerves working again and the doctors are just guessing. I wish I had more positive info to report.

All that aside, life is great. I feel healthy and I’ve just returned first from time with all my family in Perth/Broome and more recently from a leisurely holiday to Pulau Kai in the Malukus. Can’t complain too much, I have friends going through chemo and radiation therapy. For me, life is good.

6 months – the good and the bad

The good is that I’m feeling great and recent checks have my PSA at zero. Leaking is minimal – except when I cough or sneeze.

The bad is that erections have not returned – though I know it is still early days. Injections, while they swell the penis, do not make it hard and the pain afterwards is considerable. I’m going to stop these for the moment.

Next thing to try is acupuncture. Not sure the traditional Chinese style will work – more interested in dry needling in the right areas. It’s all experimentation. And, to be honest, none of the doctors really seem to have a grasp as to what works. So I will keep trying new ideas and treatments.


Spent last week on a Tantra retreat for couples. More about relationships and mindfulness, rather than sex, but included a few “tips and tricks.” The retreat was facilitated by a wonderful lady from Australia, Jacqueline Hellyer.

Why Tantra? Well with ED being an issue, why not explore other ways of being intimate.  Bali has a few Tantra options, some not appealing to my partner, but this one was informative, practical and “no sleaze.” I would recommend it for all couples.

Had my 5 month PSA test today – results tomorrow. Fingers crossed.

Still doing Pilates. But I’ve been a bit slack with my pelvic floor exercises – thought I had the leaking under control – mostly is, but I need to keep up the exercises.